Friday, 25 December 2015

‘SAMBHANDHAM’ (SEXUAL RELATIONSHIPS BETWEEN YOUNGER BRAHMIN BOYS AND NAIR WOMEN)

Nambuthiris, Malayali Brahmins, were the owners of land in Kerala and they became the masters of temples too. Their political influence also increased.  

During 19th century,  when all the inmates of other Vaishnavite Manas except the family of Oli Nambuthiri at Kumbalam fled to the territories of Travancore and Malabar, since they joined hands with Zamorin of Calicut, Oli Nambuthiri, the Desavazhi of Kumbalam, brought and settled in his property a few ‘Poti’, Brahmin families from Uduppi and Mangalore of the Karnataka State. Narayanan Embramthiri of Thrikkanni Madom and Anantharaman Embramthiri of Andipalli Madom were such Poti Brahmin families who were brought  here from Uduppi-Mangalore belt and settled at Kumbalam and  Cheppanam (later accommodated near Siva temple at Kumbalam) respectively due to an acute  shortage of ‘Pujaries’ priests to perform ‘Pujas,’ worship, in temples and to manage the Devaswom properties.

The Brahmin custom and tradition permitted only the eldest male member to get married; he could marry up to four Nambuthiri women from the same caste. Only he could inherit the family property. This enabled them to maintain their landed property and other wealth intact and avoided its division. This helped them to uphold their social and economic status too in the society.

The younger Brahmin males go for sexual relationships with the ladies of the Nair classes. Those Nair ladies would not leave their house to join their husband’s family nor do the Brahmin husbands have any right or interest on her property. The children born are known as the son or daughter of that particular lady. Potti Brahmins called as Embramthiri too practiced this custom. This practice of younger Brahmins getting married to Nair classes is known as “Sambandham.”  Though Brahmins considered Sambandham as one of the 64 Anacharams (bad habits), this type of alliance existed for centuries. Gradually Sambandham became common within Nair community also. Robin Jeffri in his book, “The Decline of Nair Dominance,” says, “Sambandham means simple Nair marriage ceremony involving presentation of a cloth by a man to woman. In ancient Kerala it appears that both men and women could have Sambhandam with more than one person at the same time.  Marriages contracted and ended with considerable ease. This was called  Sambandham and a woman might have Sambandham with a number of men at the same time.  Either man or woman could end the Sambandham with little formality.” However, the matrimonial alliance of females was not so rigid.  Those who came into union with Brahmins maintained their moral values and kept their standards. 

Those Nair woman who allowed younger Brahmin brothers to enter into sexual relationships with them, would marry a Nair as well, then have two husbands (a Nair and a Nambuthiri) and in essence, a system of polyandry came into being. However, as a consequence of this practice, the number of Nambuthiris declined and the number of Nairs increased because the children born in a Nambuthiri-Nair marriage would belong to the Nair woman's family.

I have noted an unfair and anomalous practice in Kandoth Nair tharawad, family house.  Parukutty Amma of Kandoth, a Nair lady, was the second wife of Narayanan Embramthiri of Thrikkanni Madom. (They had a daughter, Ammini Amma who was married to Gopinatha Menon of Sreevilasom.) Narayanan Embramthiri threatened to desert his second wife and Parukutty Amma, a loyal and faithful lady, was coerced to transfer some of her inherited properties (which were originally part of Uthradath Mana) to her husband, Narayanan Embramthiri. Now his grandson Jayaraman Embramthiri son of Chandran Embramthiri of Thrikkanni Madom is residing therein.

The legal validity for Sambandham marriage came to an end with the enactment of the Nair Regulation Act of M.E.1100 (1924 A.D.).  Up to this, there was no validity for their Sambandhams.  The new regulation prohibited them to own and disown wives at their pleasure.  Certain conditions were also laid out for divorce. 

The Nair (Dravidian)-Brahmin (Aryan) Sambandham, no doubt, improved the Nair breed not only in physical appearance including their height and fair skin but also in their mental acumen. The governments shall promote inter-caste and inter-racial marriages to improve the breed and this will avert lot of tensions and war in the world. Incentives like reservation in appointments, a house plot or money to erect a house can be given to such couples.

Excerpts from

MEMOIRS

An autobiography
by
Joseph J. Thayamkeril
Lawyer, Kochi, Kerala, India.
josephjthayamkeril.blogspot.com
josephjthayamkeril@google.com

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